This article will explore the ‘ins’ and ‘outs’ of dating within your relationship (a.k.a. threesomes).

Why do men and women initiate threesomes?
Firstly, there are those men looking to fulfill a fantasy of being with more than one woman at a time, especially if these women are willing to perform bisexual acts during the threesome, otherwise known as “show time“. Some women are looking to experience being with two men at once (these men can be either heterosexual or homosexual). But, most often a women is looking for the men to satisfy her and not each other, so hetero man need not be scared! In addition, there are threesomes consisting of the all one sex (i.e. 3 men or 3 women).

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Secondly, the threesome experience is commonly sought for experimental purposes. Although the ‘experimental years’ often occur during young adulthood (e.g. college years), many individuals will be looking to experiment after being involved in a long-term relationship (especially if they were married at a young age, or have only ever been with one person). These people may feel that they missed out on something, so they look to make up for that at a later stage in life.

Lastly, there are simply some very sexual men and women who are looking to introduce more variety into their sexual repertoire, and thereby feel they need to have sex with more than one person in order to be satisfied.

Is there a particular ‘type’ of person who is willing to participate in a threesome?
One person in the relationship may just be looking to please their partner by fulfilling his/her fantasies or bi-curiousness, and so they will agree to bring another person into the bedroom.

There is also the case where one partner is merely looking for the additional thrill of a threesome. For example, many women involved in relationships with men may have the inclination to be with a woman on occasion. Since they traditionally have sex with their male partner, it becomes a treat to have sex with a woman once in a while.

Swingers (couples who enjoy swapping partners) are extremely open to any kind of sexual experience, including threesomes. In more general terms, any person who is constantly seeking attention becomes a prime candidate for initiating a threesome.

Are there advantages and disadvantages of threesomes?
What distinguishes a successful and unsuccessful threesome depends on the reason you agreed to participate. For those people who are very sexual and/or bi-curious, a threesome can genuinely be an electrifying experience. I thought what Elle Magazine said made sense. However, for those individuals who agree to a threesome solely in order to please their partner, there can be repercussions. To put it simply, are you doing it for yourself or for someone else?

A very common example of a negative experience results when one of the members of a serious relationship experiences jealousy. Even for the most sexual people, it can still be very difficult for you to see your loved one participating in a sexual act with someone else. This obviously results in making it a distressing situation for everyone involved.

I’ve literally seen women start balling! If you are, however, in a more casual relationship with a partner (one wherein love is not involved), then a threesome can be enjoyed since there is no threat of jealously. Moreover, if bisexuality is involved, you can also benefit from the best of both worlds!